You see young men with tight jeans hanging below the buttocks with boxers exposed. As if that is not enough, they match it with a 7-year old shirt with belly exposed. If the boxers were clean or expensive, one would say they may be trying to show it off. But most of the boxers I have seen are neither clean nor expensive and that has forced me to ask why the exhibition.
I started with the male because whenever indecent dressing is mentioned, attention goes to the female. But the males also dress indecently as we see every day. They are boys not men.
We have seen the girls who have chosen to expose what should be covered in the name of fashion. Is it the thighs, the breasts, or even the buttocks? The question is why would a girl or boy dress indecently to the public?
Self-esteem is the feeling of being happy with your abilities and character. It is an appreciation of who you are. The reason why you would dress indecently is because you have low self-esteem. Low self-esteem means that you are not proud of who you are, you are feeling empty. You have no standard for yourself, hence, you follow other’s standard. It is this feeling of emptiness that makes you upload your indecent pictures on social media in order to have them liked. You get the likes and you feel validated as if you have an achievement, as if the Facebook likes are what make you who you are.
Indecent dressing attracts attention. When the insecure girl wants to be noticed she sets out to get attention with her dressing. Her low self-esteem makes her feel that without the attraction she is not alive, she is not happening. Hence she goes cheap by exposing private body parts. Someone with a healthy self-image will not do that.
Nothing justifies a man raping a woman, not even indecent dressing. However, that is not to say that women should not protect themselves. It is unwise for you not to protect yourself and demand protection from the law. Men are attracted by what they see. Those with self-control catch themselves and those without follow you dey go.
There is pride in a woman covering what should be protected and hidden. A woman who bares it all to the public debases womanhood. Yes, she gets attention when she does that but she does not attract men, she attracts predators. After the predator feasts on her and the “assets” are no longer as attractive, he goes on to find another attractive exposed “assets”. It is his way for he is a predator.
Indecent dressing is actually an open invitation to men to do with you as they please. This way you make yourself a prey and it is insulting to you as a person.
Anyone who dresses indecently should recover his/her self-esteem. You are more than your boxers, thighs or breasts. Do something very simple but profound – in the evening when you take off your make-up, dress, body magic, look in the mirror and ask the person you see, “Who are you?” People may follow the crowd without reason but you should not be one of them. Be part of the 20% who do not go for perception but reality.
Your fashion should speak who you are. You are a king/queen whose appearance together with fashion should deserve respect. Go find yourself.